DID YOU KNOW?
Muslim couples are often unequipped and unprepared for the challenges ahead.
Chances are, you've seen this among your friends and family too.
In all the excitement surrounding their wedding, couples start planning for their special day and forget to plan for a healthy married life.
Amal Killawi, a researcher at The FYI, conducted a study that found many couples (especially newlyweds) had mismatched and unrealistic expectations about the realities of marriage.
Because of their mismanaged expectations, many fell into a negative cycle that ultimately weakened their relationship.
Many said that they didn't realize the importance of preparing for marriage or discussing topics like finances, family, intimacy and parenthood beforehand.
They wished that someone had encouraged them to prepare for life together amidst the wedding planning and festivities.
Here's why premarital guidance is a MUST.
- Premarital education (PME) reduces the chances of divorce by 33%.
- Couples who engaged in premarital education were found to have lesser negative communications after marriage.
- 9 out of 10 couples who completed PME were less likely to divorce.
Preparing now will empower you to navigate through the challenges that inevitably come with every marriage.
For reference information, check out The FYI's Infographic: Pre-Marriage Considerations: Top 5 Reasons for Conflict among American Muslim Couples.
Prepare to Pair
A research-based, clinician-developed, self-paced online course designed to help Muslim couples prepare for a strong marriage.
Through this course, you and your partner will:
- Gain a deeper understanding of each other.
- Ensure that you are compatible with one another and nurture your compatibility further.
- Discuss and manage your expectations around marriage.
- Speak more openly about the issues that will impact your relationship, now and in the future.
We've piloted this course with several couples.
Here's what they had to say about it:
This course helped establish a healthy understanding of compatibility and mismatched expectations. It guided me on what I should pay attention to in regards to myself and my understanding of what I want in my relationship.
- OBADAH ALFAHAM
My biggest lesson was how to communicate with my partner more effectively. We have very different personalities and it was really illuminating to see that visually and described by a professional. I would highly recommend this course. I can't stop raving about it.
- ANISA A.
This course taught me to be an active learner with my partner and to openly communicate - even if it is about things that might be controversial, like money or family or friends. These things need to be talked about.
- ASMAA Q.
As a part of this course, you will receive:
How this course can help your relationship:
|Family and Relationship Roles
|Finding Your Alignment
|Sex and Intimacy
|Considerations and Concerns
- Discuss what matters - relationship roles, in-laws, spirituality, finances, sex & intimacy, and more.
- Understand the 3 keys to strong communication in your relationship.
- Know the signs of a healthy relationship, and how to address any red flags or concerns that come up.
- Learn practical ways to manage conflict in in your relationship, now and in the future.
Developed by The Family and Youth Institute
The Family and Youth Institute (The FYI) is dedicated to strengthening and empowering individuals, families, and communities through research and education.
Our course instructors are professionally trained to support couples embarking on the marriage journey.
Amal is a researcher and community educator with The FYI. She is a licensed clinical social worker trained in several marriage preparation programs. She conducts research on family and health challenges in Muslim communities.
Dr. Siddiqi is a trained marriage educator and community educator at The FYI who has been involved in marriage education work within the Muslim community for 15 years.
Dr. Ahmed is the director of The FYI and holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology. Dr. Ahmed’s research interests include marital interventions to strengthen families. She has years of experience working with Muslim couples and runs a private clinical practice.
Rafee is a community educator at The FYI. He is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in McLean, Virginia. Rafee’s biggest passion is facilitating healthy communication in couples.
Steven is a Community Educator at The FYI, and is trained in several marriage education and enrichment programs for singles and couples.
A deeper dive into Prepare to Pair
Understand what makes a couple compatible and how you can increase compatibility in your relationship.
Learn the skills to set the foundations of safe and open communication in your relationship.
Family and Relationship Roles
Ensure you are on the same page when it comes to your core beliefs and values, a lot of which are shaped by your upbringing.
Finding Your Alignment
Discuss your expectations around the key issues that play out in a marriage.
Sex and Intimacy
Debunk myths around sex. Learn to comfortably communicate your desires and concerns with your partner.
Practice the art of amicably resolving disagreements and learning about each other through conflict.
That's not all.
In addition to 7 hours of video content, you'll also receive:
Customized Relationship Report
Undertake a special assessment with your partner and get a personalized report highlighting the strengths and growth areas of your relationship.
(Worth = $35)
1:1 Session with a Relationship Expert
Get the chance to have all your questions and concerns answered with an hour-long value-packed session with a trained facilitator.
(Worth = $197)
Receive a souvenir and life-long reminder of the efforts you and your partner put in to strengthen the bond that you share with each other.
(Worth = Priceless)
Use this checklist to reflect on where you and your partner are most compatible, and how you can increase compatibility in your relationship.
(Worth = $27)
Total Value of The Complete Bundle (Modules+ Perks) = $997
Hear what others have to say about Prepare to Pair:
The course allowed us to identify growth areas to work on in our marriage. I would highly recommend this course to couples who are interested in getting married. Thank you to The FYI team for allowing us to participate!
My wife and I chose to enroll for Prepare to Pair because the cost was much lower than paying for multiple sessions with a counselor. This course would be very useful to a Muslim couple looking to get married.
- AARON MORRISON
I liked the go-at-your-own-pace structure. I also like how there is a deadline to complete the course. The course content was well-structured, the discussion questions were great and the "homework" was beneficial. Every part of this program was intentional and well-crafted.
- ANISA A.
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Prepare to Pair is brought to you by The Family and Youth Institute.
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